Father’s Day has always been a special time for me, a day filled with memories of my dad, Ricky. This year, however, it takes on a different meaning as it will be my first Father’s Day without him. My dad passed away in March at the age of 58, and I am still grappling with the immense loss. At 35, with two children of my own who lovingly called him "Paw," I find myself reflecting on the incredible impact he had on my life.
My dad was more than just a parent; he was a guide, a mentor, and my biggest supporter. Days spent with him were a treasure trove of lessons and joy. He taught me how to fish, a skill that required patience and precision, qualities that he embodied effortlessly. Our camping trips were a rite of passage, each adventure filled with stories, laughter, and the occasional mishap that we’d laugh about for years. My dad also imparted practical wisdom, teaching me how to mow the lawn and change my car’s oil. These tasks, mundane to some, were opportunities for him to share his knowledge and for us to bond over shared experiences.
Our relationship went beyond these activities. We had a special connection that saw us calling each other to check in. His voice on the other end of the line was a constant source of comfort and encouragement. He always urged me to reach for the stars, supporting my dreams of becoming an author. He took pride in every book I wrote, reading each one with the enthusiasm of a child discovering a new world. His faith in me never wavered, and it fueled my passion and drive.
My dad was a man of faith, and his sudden passing left a void that words cannot describe. Losing him instantly meant we never got to say goodbye, a reality that haunts me. As Father’s Day approaches, the pain of his absence feels sharper, but I am determined to honor his memory in ways that reflect the love and lessons he imparted to me.
For those like me, who have lost their fathers, finding ways to celebrate their memory can be both healing and meaningful. It's important to create a space where their presence is felt, even if they are no longer physically with us. Here are some ideas for young kids and families to honor and celebrate dads who are no longer here:
- Write a Letter: Encourage children to write a letter to their dad. They can express their feelings, share their favorite memories, and talk about their lives. This can be a therapeutic way to feel connected.
- Create a Memory Box: Gather photos, mementos, and items that remind you of your dad. Children can add drawings or small objects that hold significance. This box can be a comforting keepsake.
- Plant a Tree or Garden: Planting something in memory of a dad can be a beautiful and lasting tribute. Watching it grow can symbolize the enduring love and memories that continue to flourish.
- Cook His Favorite Meal: Spend time in the kitchen preparing your dad’s favorite dishes. Involve the children in cooking and share stories about why these foods were special to him.
- Visit a Place He Loved: If possible, visit a location that your dad loved. It could be a park, a fishing spot, or anywhere that holds cherished memories. Spending time there can bring a sense of closeness.
- Light a Candle: Lighting a candle in memory of a dad can be a simple yet powerful act. It can serve as a moment of reflection and remembrance, providing a sense of peace.
- Share Stories: Gather family and friends and share stories about your dad. Laughter and tears are both welcome as you celebrate his life and the joy he brought to those around him.
- Engage in a Favorite Activity: Whether it’s fishing, playing a sport, or engaging in a hobby your dad loved, spending time doing something he enjoyed can be a heartfelt way to honor him.
- Create Art: Drawing, painting, or crafting something in memory of your dad can be a wonderful expression of love. Children can create artwork that depicts their favorite memories with him.
- Donate or Volunteer: Consider donating to a charity your dad cared about or spending time volunteering. Acts of kindness and giving back can be a meaningful way to honor his legacy.
As I navigate this first Father’s Day without my dad, I find solace in these acts of remembrance. Each one is a step towards healing, a way to keep his spirit alive in our hearts. While the pain of his absence is profound, the love and memories he left behind are even stronger. By celebrating his life and the impact he had on us, we can find comfort and strength in the enduring bond we share with our dads.
